Grief and Bereavement Support
Grief and Bereavement Support available from DVHS in Oliver and Osoyoos
Our Grief Support program provides you and/or your family with one-to-one support from our Program Coordinator, who has a Masters in Social Work, or our specially trained Hospice Volunteers. Visits can take place in both Oliver and Osoyoos at a time most convenient for you. All services are free of charge and your confidentiality is assured. Click here for information.
In addition, Desert Valley Hospice Society offers a telephone Bereavement Call program for one year. Additional support is available, if needed.
Call us for more information 250-495-1590 and ask for Maureen Parriott, Program Coordinator.
The BC Bereavement Helpline 1-877-779-2223
A free, anonymous, and secure helpline answered by caring individuals who are there to just listen or to help you find support in your community. With access to over 250 grief support groups in the province at their fingertips, our staff and volunteers can give you information that will connect you with the type of support best suited to your needs.
10 Things to Know About Grief
A brochure provided by DVHS and the Victoria Hospice Bereavement Program
What To Expect When You Are Grieving
You can expect that:
• Your grief will take longer than most people think it should
• Your grief will take more energy that you can imagine
• Your grief will involve continual changes
• Your grief will show itself in all spheres of your life and who you are. It will affect your
social relationships, your health, thoughts, feelings and spiritual beliefs
• Your grief will depend upon how you perceive the loss
• You will grieve for many things (both symbolic and tangible), not just the death itself
• You will grieve for what you have lost already as well as for the future; for the hopes, dreams
and unfulfilled expectations you held for and with that person
• Your grief will involve a wide variety of feelings and reactions: some expected and some not
• This loss will resurrect old losses, feelings and unfinished business from the past
• You may have some confusion about who you are; this is due to the intensity and unfamiliarity of
the grieving experience and uncertainty about your new role in the world
• You may have a combination of anger and depression: irritability, frustration, intolerance
• You may feel guilt in some form
• You may have a poor sense of self-worth
• You may experience spasms, waves or acute upsurges of grief that occur without warning
• You will have trouble thinking and making decisions: poor memory and organization
• You may feel like you are going crazy
• You may be obsessed with the death or preoccupied with thoughts of the dead person
• You will search for meaning in your life and question your beliefs
• You may find yourself acting differently
• Society has unrealistic expectations about your mourning and responds inappropriately
• You will have a number of physical reactions
• Certain dates, events, seasons and reminders will bring upsurges in your grief
• Certain experiences later in life may resurrect intense grief feelings for you
Adapted from: Grieving: How to go on Living When Someone you Love Dies., T. Rando.